She has to keep saying it because they keep doing it . Maybe it is too near the edge of the mantelpiece. What we are left with is often how we can understand something: if you feel encouraged perhaps that is what nodding is doing: nodding as encouraging.This post is a proposition:  we can think of nodding as non-performative, which is not to say this is the only way we can think about nodding. But we learn from how much of our political work requires disrupting usage. These pages are eminently shareable; I havealready copied and passed them to friends, colleagues, and students, and I suspect I am not the only one. We can want different things, of course, and we do not always know what we want until we find it. Last year, a group of young women at the high school where I teach founded a Feminist Club, carving out space for themselves to learn, vent, and take action. What work is she doing? A world can be tight; norms can be felt as tight and restricted when they do not accommodate your desires or your being, and loose and free when they do. Over this summer I will be starting to write a new book on complaint as well as writing a new lecture, (4) This is very important: institutions often work to atomise complaints, to separate and to individuate, at the level of process as well as procedure. That sound, that eehhhhh, pierces the meeting, that meeting taking place in the little glass room, a fishbowl, where they can all be seen. She writes loosely on 3 topics: rape culture, women's friendships and feminist mothering. A complaint too is often treated as (potential) damage to the organisation. Sometimes of course it can take a removal of persons to stop some forms of harassment; that this is the case is telling us something about how harassment is enabled and built into a system. To open feminist spaces, requires constant vigilance; we have to keep questioning ourselves, learning from each other about each other.Let me share a few paragraphs from the conclusion of A transfeminist project might show how original assignments are themselves constructions. But we still need to survive the institutions we are trying to transform. Reference systems are how some are enabled by their connections, how some gather speed and velocity, more and more, faster and faster, “he is an important man.” Many do not make complaints because they cannot afford to lose the references. What happens when the stuffing speaks? A closed door can itself be imperceptible; we can think back to the how diversity is figured as an open door; come in, come in; as if there is nothing stopping anyone from getting in or getting through. When we think of “queer families,” we are thinking how we queers can be inventive with the family form by not allowing it to assume the same old form.At the end of the book, you call for a revival of lesbian feminism, “in order to build worlds from the shattered places.” You insist on the continued relevance and utility of the term “queer,” and point to the importance of “wiggle room”—predominantly queer spaces like bars, coffee shops, etc.—for those of us so often constrained by society. A friend recommended this book to me; Erin Wunker was one of their (favourite) professors, and they're right, her writing is excellent.A friend recommended this book to me; Erin Wunker was one of their (favourite) professors, and they're right, her writing is excellent.I wouldn't say that Notes from a Feminist Killjoy offers much novel thought on the topics of sexual assault or mothering, but Wunker does talk about important and challenging issues in an accessible manner. And yet I understand how and why for some queer people, access to marriage might matter the way access to other institutions matters.I do think we need to fight to transform structures that have been oppressive and not just try and be included within them. I liked the Canadian and local references (to news stories and so on).

Or they send paper out to create a trail, paper that can be used as evidence of what has been done. She identifies a rather unfortunate problem in that women don't have fantastic role models for friendship.

People say and do things that are inappropriate and/or abusive that desensitize others in regards to violence towards women. It's a problem, it's real, and it's worth discussing.The best way to describe the book is that it is a wonderful series of messy meditations on what it means to be as Sara Ahmed calls it, a feminist killjoy. I wanted to treat these ordinary bumps, these ups and downs, as part of living a feminist life. The ghosts can gather; the more we complain the louder we become; it can be explosive. It can be terrifying but necessary.Whitley, Leila and Tiffany Page 2015. And if you do not manage to confront it, that concern can be confirmed.